Friday’s horrific mass shooting in an Aurora, Colo., movie theater after a showing of “The Dark Knight Rises” prompts some natural reactions within the human psyche. People who had plans to see a movie would have this terrible event on their minds, and perhaps some would choose not to go. In fact, some moviehouse owners encouraged people to not stay away.
It begs revisiting the old discussion — are we going to live in fear?
I admit to being somewhat of a “fraidy cat.” I have trouble even being in the same room as a gun. There are a lot of things I’m too afraid to do: sky dive, bungie jump, ride a motorcycle (even with a helmet), jet ski, water ski — basically a lot of fun things. Somehow, somebody once got me to zipline.
But I consider most of the above “unnecessary risks” — my opinion, of course, not binding on anyone else and not condemning of anyone else. In my mind, they are things I don’t need to do … so I won’t, and that’s my choice.
However, the terrifying, tragic events of early Friday morning are of the grave scale that can drive the fears of some to become more consuming. Do we live in that fear? Do we need to stay in our homes?
Mass shootings usually happen in common places: work, school, church, restaurants, movie theaters. Places where people go to learn, worship, earn a living, enjoy their time — everyday places.
I feel the fear whenever I read a news story of this type of tragedy. I am of a mind that can slip into that fear — for myself, my wife, my young son (whose safety is such a concern to me that for some time it caused me serious anxiety). Thoughts come to my head of being overcautious, and I almost self-justify them because of the nature of these crimes — that they can happen anywhere, anytime, and can’t be stopped.
But that is not the correct approach. Those who commit terror want people to live in terror, and nobody can let them win. While I don’t believe it is wrong to have fears — particularly even when going about everyday tasks and errands — those fears should not stop us from being functioning humans, even though they are a natural part of being human.
Maybe many of us do live in fear, but we still need to live. And that’s what I take to my heart when a tragedy of this magnitude strikes.
The National Hockey League is in the midst of its playoffs, and the writer has been focused on the Philadelphia Flyers-Pittsburgh Penguins series (disclosure: I am a Flyers fan).
Game 3 of the series, an 8-4 win for the Flyers, was marred by dangerous hits and fighting throughout the game, particularly near the end, when this hit by James Neal on Sean Couturier touched off this ongoing brawl late in the third period.
It was an ugly scene, and not entirely unexpected when fans take into account the fact that these teams really don’t like each other — to the point where they’re using those exact words.
And a writer from a Pittsburgh newspaper weighed in with this lamentation.
“Maybe the Earth shifted on its axis and what was west is now east and vice versa. At least in Pennsylvania.
How else to explain what has happened in an Eastern Conference first-round playoff series between the supposed big, bad, bloodthirsty, dirty Philadelphia Flyers and the perceived composed, well-oiled, skilled, favored Penguins?”
At first glance, this looked to me like the classic back-handed, self-righteous comment: “Oh no, we’re like THEM now!”
But the columnist is grounded in reality, as his uses of the words “supposed” and “perceived” are a wake-up call to those who base their worldview on reputations and stigma.
The Philadelphia Flyers do have a history of being a rough-and-tumble team, as the franchise’s two Stanley Cup winners in the mid-1970s were known as the “Broad Street Bullies.” That reputation has resurfaced in recent years — the team led the league in penalty minutes this season.
The Penguins’ recent reputation is, as the columnist described, a slick, skilled team that has the league’s most marketed star, Sidney Crosby (conspiracy theory alert), and a recent Stanley Cup to its credit.
Now, at least during the past week that this series has been going on, the reputations don’t matter. One team is playing disciplined hockey — it’s not the one you’d expect. The other team is playing dirty hockey and acting quite petulantly — it’s not the one you’d expect.
And that’s the point where the most ardent fans of both teams (more so some of the Penguins fans, just do a Web search for Penguins message boards) are giving themselves headaches — particularly those who base their views on past reputations. They just can’t fathom that things aren’t going the way they were “supposed” to go. Surely things will revert back to their original role … right?
Maybe, but for now they have to deal with how it is.
This really isn’t about hockey. It’s about people who choose to be outspoken about the bad reputation (real or imagined) of a person, a team, a state, an institution, etc. In that person’s mind, the entity will always have a certain stigma to it.
Should the entity act contrary to what that stigma is, the person who views it that way will be understandably shocked.
But after the initial shock, what do you do? I’ve seen differing reactions …
• Accept the entity is acting in a good way, and open one’s mind that the bad stigma may not be deserved
• Accept the entity is acting in a good way, but due to past reputation of entity, person believes there are nefarious ulterior motives involved, masked by benevolent actions
• Become completely flabbergasted inside, because this entity can never do anything good. In fact, the person subconsciously wants the entity to live up to its bad reputation, so his/her view will be correct
It’s that third one that stands out. It is the mark of a bitter person, who cannot accept that a target of their hatred is doing things that warrant the opposite of hate.
I hope I never do this. Go Flyers.